Someone reprimanded me and said I was creating my own problems by talking about them.  He is a Christian who believes in the Law of Attraction.  I do believe that we can, within reason, draw certain outcomes into our lives.  I think that what we dwell on can lead us to action, even in subtle or unconscious ways, that will affect our course in life.  On the other hand, we all carry trauma and dysfunction with us, and these must be unpacked if we want to make positive changes for our future, and the future of our children.  Magical thinking doesn’t work.  Dogma is not kind.  Religion was made up by people to control other people.  Burying your head in the sand will not help you.  You have to feel it in order to heal it.  It’s not too late, as I once believed, to repair things from our past.  We can heal.  We can’t change the events, but we can choose not to accept it anymore.  We can give ourselves permission to set boundaries, and to give ourselves positive affirmations that we may not have received when we first needed them.  We can be kind to ourselves, and to the child within us that needed something different than what we got.  We need awareness in order to start.  Our parents and other caregivers didn’t have the answers. They had unfulfilled needs and traumas of their own.  Look deep inside.  Don’t be afraid of what you might find.  You’ve already been through it.  Anyone who knows me, knows my soapbox.  There is nothing wrong with you.  You are incredibly special.  You can say what you need.  What you want.  And you can have it.  You can say NO!  You don’t have to follow the suggestions of others if you don’t want to.  You can cut people out of your life without hatred. You can take care of yourself however you see fit.  THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.